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[Quote No.50892] Need Area: Fun > General
"The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it." - Eckhart Tolle

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[Quote No.50942] Need Area: Fun > General
"One is happy as a result of one's own efforts once one knows the necessary ingredients of happiness: simple tastes, a certain degree of courage, self denial to a point, love of work, and above all, a clear conscience." - George Sand
(1804-1876) -[pen name of Amantine-Aurore-Lucile Dupin], novelist
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[Quote No.50957] Need Area: Fun > General
"You may not control all of the events that happen to you but you can decide not to be reduced by them!!" - Maya Angelou

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[Quote No.50997] Need Area: Fun > General
"Men are not prisoners of fate [and experience], but only prisoners of their own minds [and imagination]!" - Franklin D. Roosevelt
American President
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[Quote No.51018] Need Area: Fun > General
"Hatred rarely does any harm to its object. It is the hater who suffers. His soul is warped and his life poisoned by dwelling on past injuries." - Max Aitken (Lord Beaverbrook)

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"Hatred is like an acid. It can do more damage to the container in which it is stored than to the object on which it is poured." - Ann Landers

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[Quote No.60421] Need Area: Fun > General
"People often say that motivation [satiety, happiness, etc] doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing [eating, fun, etc] - that's why we recommend it daily." - Zig Ziglar

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[Quote No.51036] Need Area: Fun > General
"If I were given the opportunity to present a gift to the next generation, it would be the ability for each individual to learn to laugh at himself!" - Charles Schulz

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[Quote No.51057] Need Area: Fun > General
"A picnic may well be a metaphor for life. The essentials for happiness are the right company, moderate if sanguine expectations and a reasonable standard of physical sustenance and comfort, the whole being bedeviled by the belief that there is always something better to be had if only one presses on." - P. D. James
Novelist
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[Quote No.51091] Need Area: Fun > General
"I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow; but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing." - Agatha Christie
Writer
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[Quote No.51096] Need Area: Fun > General
"Every thought you have makes up some segment of the world you see. It is with your thoughts then, that we must work, if your perception of the world is to be changed." - Foundation of Inner Peace

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[Quote No.51098] Need Area: Fun > General
"Focus on the positive things as well as making the negative things positive by comparing them to something worse." - Seymour@imagi-natives.com

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[Quote No.51145] Need Area: Fun > General
"There is only one way to achieve happiness on this terrestrial ball, and that is to have either a clear conscience or none at all! " - Ogden Nash
(1902-1971) poet
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[Quote No.51148] Need Area: Fun > General
"It has always seemed strange to me that in our endless discussions about education so little stress is laid on the pleasure of becoming an educated person, the enormous interest it adds to life. To be able to be caught up into the world of thought - that is to be educated!" - Edith Hamilton
(1867-1963) educator and writer
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[Quote No.51171] Need Area: Fun > General
"Accentuate The Positive: Consciously make an effort to fill your mind with positive thoughts. Practice focusing on the hundreds of positive [grateful] aspects of your life. Be aware of your ability to see, talk, walk, etc. Thoughts always keep racing through your mind, so gently keep your focus on all the positive details of your life. Realize that you are the one who chooses what thoughts to dwell on. Choose those thoughts which enhance your life." - Rabbi Zelig Pliskin
From his book, 'Gateway to Happiness', p.179.
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[Quote No.51175] Need Area: Fun > General
"Everyone wants to be physically healthy. You want to be mentally healthy as well. Think about it. Don't you? The true measure of 'mental fitness' is how optimistic you are about yourself and your life. ...learn how to control your thinking in very specific ways so that you feel terrific about yourself and your situation, no matter what happens. --Control Your Reactions and Responses: There are three basic differences in the reactions of optimists and pessimists. The first difference is that the optimist sees a setback as temporary, while the pessimist sees it as permanent. The optimist sees an unfortunate event, such as an order that falls through or a sales call that fails, as a temporary event, something that is limited in time and that has no real impact on the future. The pessimist, on the other hand, sees negative events as permanent, as part of life and destiny. --Isolate the Incident: The second difference between the optimist and the pessimist is that the optimist sees difficulties as specific, while the pessimist sees them as pervasive. This means that when things go wrong for the optimist, he looks at the event as an isolated incident largely disconnected from other things that are going on in his life. --See Setbacks As Temporary Events: For example, if something you were counting on failed to materialize and you interpreted it to yourself as being an unfortunate event, but something that happens in the course of life and business, you would be reacting like an optimist. The pessimist, on the other hand, sees disappointments as being pervasive. That is, to him they are indications of a problem or shortcoming that pervades every area of life. --Don't Take Failure Personally: The third difference between optimists and pessimists is that optimists see events as external, while pessimists interpret events as personal. When things go wrong, the optimist will tend to see the setback as resulting from external factors over which one has little control. If the optimist is cut off in traffic, for example, instead of getting angry or upset, he will simply downgrade the importance of the event by saying something like, 'Oh, well, I guess that person is just having a bad day.' The pessimist on the other hand, has a tendency to take everything personally. If the pessimist is cut off in traffic, he will react as though the other driver has deliberately acted to upset and frustrate him. --Remain Calm and Objective: The hallmark of the fully mature, fully functioning, self-actualizing personality is the ability to be objective and unemotional when caught up in the inevitable storms of daily life. The superior person has the ability to continue talking to himself in a positive and optimistic way, keeping his mind calm, clear and completely under control. The mature personality is more relaxed and aware and capable of interpreting events more realistically and less emotionally than is the immature personality. As a result, the mature person exerts a far greater sense of control and influence over his environment, and is far less likely to be angry, upset, or distracted. --Take the Long View: Look upon the inevitable setbacks that you face as being temporary, specific and external. View the negative situation as a single event that is not connected to other potential events and that is caused largely by external factors over which you can have little control. Simply refuse to see the event as being in any way permanent, pervasive or indicative of personal incompetence of inability. Resolve to think like an optimist, no matter what happens. You may not be able to control events but you can control the way you react to them. " - Brian Tracy
Management consultant
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[Quote No.51205] Need Area: Fun > General
"Assume a virtue [attitude of fun] if you have it not. " - William Shakespeare

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[Quote No.51208] Need Area: Fun > General
"Assume a virtue [attitude of happiness] if you have it not." - William Shakespeare

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[Quote No.51210] Need Area: Fun > General
"Just as those who want financial wealth - riches - can try to increase the number of dollars they have in the bank from their different earning and investing activities, those that want emotional wealth - happiness - can try to increase the number of seconds of smiling they have in their memory banks from their different attitudes - gratitude, satisfaction and anticipation - and activities." - Seymour@imagi-natives.com

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[Quote No.51286] Need Area: Fun > General
"If I feel depressed I will sing... [happy song lyrics - full of positive imagery and affirmations. For example:


Perry Como’s ‘ Accentuate The Positive’ lyrics sample -

( ac-cent-thu-ate the positive,
E-lim-inate the negative,
Ac-cent-thu-ate the positive, an latch on! )

You gotta accent-thu-ate the positive,
E-lim-inate the negative,
An latch on,
To the affirmative.
Don't mess with mister in-between!

You gotta spread joy up to the maximum,
Bring gloom down to the minimum,
An have faith ( amen! )
Or pandemoniums,
Liable to walk upon the scene!

To illustrate,
My last remark,
Jonah in the whale!
Noah in the ark!
An what did they do ( what did they do? )
Just when everything looked so dark?

( what did they, what did they, what did they do? )

Man! they said,
You better accent-thu-ate the positive,
E-lim-inate the negative,
An latch on,
To the affirmative.
Don't mess with mister in-between!
No, don't mess with mister in-between!

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Bobby McFerrin’s ‘Don't Worry, Be Happy’ lyrics sample -

Here's a little song I wrote,
You might want to sing it note for note,
Don't worry be happy.
In every life we have some trouble,
When you worry you make it double,
Don't worry, be happy!

...

Ain't got no place to lay your head,
Somebody came and took your bed,
Don't worry, be happy.
The landlord say your rent is late.
He may have to litigate.
Don't worry, be happy.
(Look at me I am happy)

...

Ain't got no cash, ain't got no style.
Ain't got no girl to make you smile.
But don't worry be happy.
'Cause when you worry,
Your face will frown,
And that will bring everybody down.
So don't worry, be happy.
Don't worry, be happy now.

...

Etc

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Barbra Streisand’s ‘Happy Days Are Here Again’ lyrics sample -

So long sad times.
Go long bad times.
We are rid of you at last.
Howdy gay times.
Cloudy gray times,
You are now a thing of the past.

Happy days are here again.
The skies above are clear again.
So let's sing a song of cheer again.
Happy days are here again.

Altogether shout it now.
There's no one,
Who can doubt it now.
So let's tell the world about it now.
Happy days are here again.

Your cares and troubles are gone.
There'll be no more from now on.
From now on...

Happy days are here again.
The skies above are here again.
So, let's sing a song of cheer again.
Happy times,
Happy nights,
Happy days,
Are here again!

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Tony Bennett’s ‘Put On A Happy Face’ lyrics sample –

Gray skies are gonna clear up,
Put on a happy face;
Brush off the clouds and cheer up,
Put on a happy face.

Take off the gloomy mask of tragedy,
It's not your style;
You'll look so good that you'll be glad,
Ya' decide to smile!

Pick out a pleasant outlook,
Stick out that noble chin;
Wipe off that ‘full of doubt’ look,
Slap on a happy grin!

And spread sunshine all over the place,
Just put on a happy face!
Put on a happy face.
Put on a happy face.

etc

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Judy Garland ‘Smile’ lyrics sample –

Smile though your heart is aching.
Smile, even though it's breaking.
When there are clouds, in the sky, you'll get by.
If you smile, through your fear and sorrow,
Smile, and there'll be tomorrow.
You'll see the sun come shining through,
If you'll....
Light up your face with gladness,
Hide every trace of sadness,
Although a tear, may be ever so near,
That's the time, you must keep on trying.

Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile,
If you'll just....
Light up your face with gladness,
Hide every trace of sadness,
Although a tear, may be ever so near,
That's the time, you must keep on trying.
Smile, what's the use of crying?
You'll find that life is still worthwhile,
If you'll just....
Smile!

----------- ]

" - Og Mandino
(1923-1996), American motivational author, speaker
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[Quote No.51296] Need Area: Fun > General
"Act with enthusiastic joy and you will actually experience it. [Act till it's a fact. Fake it till you make it!]" - Rabbi Moshe Chaim Luzzatto
In his classic work 'Path of The Just' written in 1740.
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[Quote No.51311] Need Area: Fun > General
"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin -- real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life [and therefore I needed to find ways to enjoy the journey through the obstacles]!" - Fr. Alfred D'Souza

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[Quote No.51348] Need Area: Fun > General
"Never be in a hurry; do everything quietly and in a calm spirit. Do not lose your inner peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset!" - Saint Francis de Sales

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[Quote No.51399] Need Area: Fun > General
"Life is a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving to death!" - Mame Dennis (played by Rosalind Russell)
Mame Dennis is a character, played by actress Rosalind Russell, in the 1958 movie,'Auntie Mame'.
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[Quote No.51465] Need Area: Fun > General
"Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know." - H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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[Quote No.51472] Need Area: Fun > General
"Your successes and happiness are forgiven you only if you generously consent to share them!" - Albert Camus

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[Quote No.51527] Need Area: Fun > General
"[An Imagi-Native] Culture is to know the best that has been said and thought [seen and smelt, tasted and felt, sung and invented, experienced and created, etc.,] in the world [and to have it so well organised and associated in the mind that it effortlessly provides a rich, interior life, regardless of the exterior situation]! " - Matthew Arnold
(1822–88) Poet and critic, born in England, UK.
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[Quote No.51531] Need Area: Fun > General
"[Song lyrics about distracting the mind from negative thoughts by focusing on positive ones. From the song - 'My Favorite Things (Maria)':]

...When the dog bites,
When the bee stings,
When I'm feeling sad,
I simply remember my favorite things,
And then I don't feel so bad!

" - Oscar Hammerstein II and Richard Rodgers
Songwriters: Oscar Hammerstein II and Richard Rodgers. From the song - 'My Favorite Things (Maria)' from the movie 'The Sound of Music'.
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[Quote No.51552] Need Area: Fun > General
"Flow [which is a method to happiness] is a state of concentration [attention, engagement, mindfulness] so focused that it amounts to absolute absorption in an activity!" - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
Hungarian psychology professor in his seminal book 'Flow: The Secret to Happiness'.
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[Quote No.51638] Need Area: Fun > General
"[A rich inner life; varied, interesting, rewarding, imaginative, interior experience and landscape.] My imagination is a monastery, and I am its monk." - John Keats
Poet. Quote from a letter he wrote to Percy Bysshe Shelly, 1820.
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[Quote No.51641] Need Area: Fun > General
"A sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to our steps as we walk the tightrope of life." - Arab Proverb

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[Quote No.51646] Need Area: Fun > General
"[Poem: 'Optimism']

Talk happiness. The world is sad enough,
Without your woes. No path is wholly rough;
Look for the places that are smooth and clear,
And speak of those, to rest the weary ear,
Of Earth, so hurt by one continuous strain,
Of human discontent and grief and pain.

...

" - Ella Wheeler Wilcox

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[Quote No.51648] Need Area: Fun > General
"[A story - with a message about seeing the best in life.] 'The Optimist' - There is a story of identical twins. One was a hope-filled optimist. 'Everything is coming up roses!' he would say. The other twin was a sad and hopeless pessimist. He thought that Murphy, as in Murphy's Law, was an optimist. The worried parents of the boys brought them to the local psychologist. He suggested to the parents a plan to balance the twins' personalities. 'On their next birthday, put them in separate rooms to open their gifts. Give the pessimist the best toys you can afford, and give the optimist a box of manure.' The parents followed these instructions and carefully observed the results. When they peeked in on the pessimist, they heard him audibly complaining, 'I don't like the color of this computer . . I'll bet this calculator will break . . . I don't like the game . . . I know someone who's got a bigger toy car than this . . .' Tiptoeing across the corridor, the parents peeked in and saw their little optimist gleefully throwing the manure up in the air. He was giggling. 'You can't fool me! Where there's this much manure, there's gotta be a pony!'" - Unknown

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[Quote No.51655] Need Area: Fun > General
"[A rich inner life: varied, interesting, rewarding, imaginative, interior experience and landscape... A life even in] A prison is never narrow when the imagination can range in it as it will." - Marguerite of Navarre

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[Quote No.51668] Need Area: Fun > General
"...no activity can be continued for long if it does not to some extent afford pleasure to the participant!" - Desiderius Erasmus
(1466 – 1536), Desiderius Erasmus of Rotterdam was a Dutch philosopher, humanist and theologian. This is a quote from his letter to Christian Northoff (1497), as translated in Collected Works of Erasmus (1974), p. 114.
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[Quote No.51672] Need Area: Fun > General
"[A rich inner life; varied, interesting, rewarding, imaginative, interior experience and landscape:] In a very real sense, people who have read good literature [and thought interesting thoughts] have lived more than people who cannot or will not read [think or imagine, like their best life depended on it - which it does]! " - S. I. Hayakawa

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[Quote No.51673] Need Area: Fun > General
"[Do not let difficulties stop you or make you unhappy:] As a lotus flower is born in [muddy] water, grows in [muddy] water and rises out of [muddy] water to stand above it unsoiled [clean and fragrant], so I, born in the world, raised in the world having overcome the world [its vices and pains], live [gratefully and happily] unsoiled by the world." - Buddha
(563-483 B.C.), Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism.
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"You will not [certainly] be punished FOR your anger, you will [certainly] be punished BY your anger." - Buddha
(563-483 B.C.), Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, the founder of Buddhism.
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[Quote No.51677] Need Area: Fun > General
"[Do not let difficulties stop you or make you unhappy:] May we exist in muddy water with purity, like a lotus. " - Zen saying

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[Quote No.51679] Need Area: Fun > General
"[Do not let difficulties stop you or make you unhappy:] To stay calm, relaxed and unaffected, amid challenges, remember the image of water off a duck's back!" - Seymour@imagi-natives.com

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[Quote No.51690] Need Area: Fun > General
"Life appears to me too short to be spent in nursing animosity, or registering wrongs." - Charlotte Bronte
British author
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[Quote No.51694] Need Area: Fun > General
"Rabbi Shapiro was a creative Torah leader and educator and mastered joy in all circumstances. His deathbed scene has become one of the most famous in Jewish history. He constantly taught, 'Everything we do in life, we should do with joy. Even dying.' So as he was breathing his last breaths, he asked his students to dance and sing around his bed. What an amazing teacher! With one statement, he taught them how to live and how to die!" - Rabbi Zelig Pliskin
From his book, 'Happiness', p.53.
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"It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end!" - Ursula K. LeGuin

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"Men [and women] for the sake of getting a living forget to [take the time away from work to] live!" - Margaret Fuller

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"I think the future of [greater happiness, productivity and self-actualising potential through] psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child [the life-skills of] how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself [through their own negative, pessimistic and irrational thoughts and beliefs] and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs [through becoming more positive, optimistic and rational by, among other methods, using skepticism to challenge unsubstantiated negativity and irrationality]!! " - Dr. Albert Ellis
(1913-2007), Dr. Albert Ellis has been considered one of the most influential psychotherapists in history. In a survey conducted in 1982 among approximately 800 American clinical and counseling psychologists, Albert Ellis was considered even more influential in the field than Sigmund Freud. Prior to his death in 2007, 'Psychology Today' described him as the 'greatest living psychologist'. He developed in 1955, rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), the pioneering form of cognitive behavior therapy. It is a highly effective, action-oriented psychotherapy that teaches individuals to identify, challenge, and replace their self-defeating thoughts and beliefs with healthier thoughts that promote emotional well-being and goal achievement.
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"Even injustice has it's good points. It gives me the challenge of being as happy as I can in an unfair world." - Dr. Albert Ellis
(1913-2007), Dr. Albert Ellis has been considered one of the most influential psychotherapists in history. In a survey conducted in 1982 among approximately 800 American clinical and counseling psychologists, Albert Ellis was considered even more influential in the field than Sigmund Freud. Prior to his death in 2007, 'Psychology Today' described him as the 'greatest living psychologist'. He developed in 1955, rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), the pioneering form of cognitive behavior therapy. It is a highly effective, action-oriented psychotherapy that teaches individuals to identify, challenge, and replace their self-defeating thoughts and beliefs with healthier thoughts that promote emotional well-being and goal achievement.
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"If human emotions largely result from thinking, then one may appreciably control one's feelings by controlling one's thoughts - or by changing the internalized sentences, or self-talk, with which one largely created the feeling in the first place." - Dr. Albert Ellis
(1913-2007), Dr. Albert Ellis has been considered one of the most influential psychotherapists in history. In a survey conducted in 1982 among approximately 800 American clinical and counseling psychologists, Albert Ellis was considered even more influential in the field than Sigmund Freud. Prior to his death in 2007, 'Psychology Today' described him as the 'greatest living psychologist'. He developed in 1955, rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT), the pioneering form of cognitive behavior therapy. It is a highly effective, action-oriented psychotherapy that teaches individuals to identify, challenge, and replace their self-defeating thoughts and beliefs with healthier thoughts that promote emotional well-being and goal achievement.
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"Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), was developed by Dr. Albert Ellis in 1955. It has since flourished and spawned a variety of other cognitive-behavior therapies. REBT's effectiveness, short-term nature, and low cost are major reasons for its popularity. [Numerous studies support the efficacy of this approach for a wide range of problems, for example anxiety, depression, procrastination, relationship problems, and addictions.] REBT's comprehensive approach works best for individuals desiring a scientific, present-focused, and active treatment for coping with life's difficulties, rather than one which is mystical, historical, and largely passive. REBT is based on a few simple principles having profound implications: ---1. You are responsible for your own emotions and actions, ---2. Your harmful emotions and dysfunctional behaviors are the product of your irrational thinking, ---3. You can learn more realistic views and, with practice, make them a part of you, ---4. You'll experience a deeper acceptance of yourself and greater satisfactions in life by developing a reality-based perspective. REBT distinguishes clearly between two very different types of difficulties: practical problems and emotional problems. Your flawed behavior, unfair treatment by others, and undesirable situations, represent practical problems. Regrettably, your human tendency is to upset yourself about these practical problems, thereby unnecessarily creating a second order of problems--emotional suffering. REBT addresses the latter by helping you: -----1. Take responsibility for your distress. The first lesson in healthy emoting and relating was stated by the Roman philosopher Epictetus more than 2000 years ago: 'Only you can upset yourself about events--the events themselves, no matter how undesirable, can never upset you.' Recognize that neither another person, nor an adverse circumstance, can ever disturb you--only you can. No one else can get into your gut and churn it up. Others can cause you physical pain--by hitting you over the head with a baseball bat, for example--or can block your goals. But you create your own emotional suffering, or self-defeating behavioral patterns, about what others do or say. -----2. Identify your 'musts' [or 'Non-negotiable expectations']. Once you admit that you distort your own emotions and actions, then determine precisely how. The culprit usually lies in one of the three core ‘musts:’ --'Must' #1 (a demand on yourself): 'I MUST do well and get approval, or else I'm worthless.' This demand causes anxiety, depression, and lack of assertiveness. --'Must' #2 (a demand on others): 'You MUST treat me reasonably, considerately, and lovingly, or else you're no good.' This ‘must’ leads to resentment, hostility, and violence. --'Must' #3 (a demand on situations): 'Life MUST be fair, easy, and hassle-free, or else it's awful.' This thinking is associated with hopelessness, procrastination, and addictions. Ascertain what you're demanding of yourself, of your significant others, or of your circumstances. Not until you have discovered the 'must' can you then go on effectively to reduce your distress. -----3. Dispute your 'musts.' The only way you can ever remain disturbed about adversity is by vigorously and persistently agreeing with one of these three 'musts.' Thus, once you've bared them, then [use the power of rational skepticism to] relentlessly confront and question your demands. Begin by asking yourself: 'What's the evidence for my 'must?'' 'How is it true?' 'Where's it etched in stone?' And then by seeing: 'There's no evidence.' 'My 'must' is entirely false.' 'It's not carved indelibly anywhere.' Make your view 'must'-free, and then your emotions will heal. -----4. Reinforce your preferences. Conclude, therefore: --Preference #1: 'I strongly PREFER to do well and get approval, but even if I fail, I will accept myself fully,' --Preference #2: 'I strongly PREFER that you treat me reasonably, kindly, and lovingly, but since I don't run the universe, and it's a part of your human nature to err, I, then, cannot control you,' --Preference #3: 'I strongly PREFER that life be fair, easy, and hassle-free, and it's very frustrating that it isn't, but I can bear frustration and still considerably enjoy life.' Assuming that you take the above suggestions to heart and thereby greatly reduce your anxiety, hostility, depression, and addictions, what remains? Will you exist robot-like, devoid of human feeling and motivation? Hardly! Without your turmoil, you'll more easily experience love, involvement, and joy. And without your addictions, you'll be freer to engage in the gratifying experiences of spontaneity, commitment, and self-actualization. As you can see, REBT will appeal to you if you relish quickly taking control of your own life, rather than remaining dependent upon a therapist for years. By giving you tools for identifying and overcoming the true source of your difficulties, it will prepare you to act in many ways as your own therapist. And by helping you to reinforce realistic, self-benefitting beliefs, it will enable you to eliminate present emotional and behavioral problems, and to avoid future ones. " - Dr. Michael R. Edelstein
Clinical Psychologist and author of 'Three Minute Therapy: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life', which was praised by the originator of REBT, Albert Ellis, Ph.D. President, Albert Ellis Institute for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy, with...'Of all the books that explain [Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy] in simple, clear, and highly usable form, Three Minute Therapy is one of the very best.' [http://www.threeminutetherapy.com/rebt.html and refer http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_emotive_behavior_therapy ]
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"Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy [REBT]: Albert Ellis, the father of cognitive-behavioral therapy and founder of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), discovered that people’s beliefs strongly affected their emotional functioning. In particular certain irrational beliefs made people feel depressed, anxious or angry and led to self-defeating behaviors. When Ellis presented his theory in the mid-1950′s (Ellis, 1962), the role of cognition in emotional disturbance had not been fully addressed by the field of psychology. Ellis developed REB theory and therapy in reaction to what he saw as the inadequate techniques of psychoanalysis [‘Tell me about your childhood’, etc.,] and behaviorism [‘Let’s set up a series of rewards and punishments for desired and undesired behaviors’]. He attributed the deficiency in the two camps’ techniques to their conceptualization of personality and emotional disturbance. Ellis felt that by ignoring the role thinking played in emotional disturbance both psychoanalytic and behavior theory failed to explain how humans originally became disturbed and how they remained disturbed. The word ‘belief’ means a conviction in the truth, actuality, or validity of something. So a belief is a thought with an emotional component (conviction) and a factual component (truth, actuality or validity). Beliefs can be either positive or negative. Having a negative belief is not necessarily a bad thing; however, when one believes in something that is false, a negative belief tends to become what Ellis called an ‘irrational’ belief. Irrational beliefs are not friendly to happiness and contentment and are definitely unhelpful for getting one’s basic desires for love and approval, comfort and achievement or success [refer Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs] met. ====== Core Irrational Beliefs: --- Demandingness or Absolutism – inflexible, dogmatic, extreme beliefs signaled by words such as should, must, have to, and need to (e.g., ‘I should not be in pain’ or ‘I should be able to do what I used to do’). This is not the kind of should as in ‘I should go to the store and get some milk,’ but rather a should with a capital ‘S’, a demand. --- Demand for Love and Approval from nearly everyone one finds important --- Demand for Success or Achievement in things one finds important --- Demand for Comfort or nearly no frustration or discomfort. When someone holds one of these irrational beliefs, they also tend to hold one or a combination of the following irrational beliefs. --- Awfulization – refers to 100% disasterizing beliefs signaled by such words as disaster, horrible or awful, and catastrophe [catastrophizing]. --- Low Frustration Tolerance – beliefs signaled by words such as intolerable, can’t stand it, and too hard. --- Global-Rating – beliefs in which you condemn or blame your entire selfhood or someone else’s basic value in some important way. Global rating is signaled by such words as loser, worthless, useless, idiot, stupid. ====== ABCDE Model of Emotional Disturbance: Albert Ellis thought people developed irrational beliefs in response to preferential goals being blocked. He set this up in an ABCDE model (Ellis and Dryden, 1987). ‘A’ stands for Activating Event or Adversity. This is any event. It is just a fact. ‘B’ refers to one’s Irrational Belief about the event at ‘A.’ That belief then leads to ‘C,’ the emotional and behavioral Consequences. ‘D’ stands for disputes or arguments against irrational beliefs. E stands for New Effect or the new, more effective emotions and behaviours that result from more reasonable thinking about the original event. ====== Disputing Irrational Beliefs: It is important to use vigor or energy when disputing irrational beliefs. Disputing is not just a rational or cognitive method but also an emotional method of changing irrational beliefs into rational ones. Rational beliefs are flexible and are based on preferences, not extremist demands for comfort, success and approval. A belief also develops an emotional component after it is practiced repeatedly. Unfortunately, humans can rehearse untrue ideas and develop irrational beliefs. Typically, common sense tells us that an irrational belief is false, but there is little emotion connected to that common-sense thought. In other words, one can see the idea is wrong but it feels true. People tend to confuse this feeling, because it is so strong, with the truth and then tend to engage in activities that support the irrational belief. Disputing irrational beliefs involves [developing skepticism and] asking oneself a few simple questions. --- 1- The Empirical or Scientific Dispute. Ask ‘where is the proof that this belief is true?’ With this question, one is looking for the scientific evidence of the irrational belief’s validity. For example, John’s irrational belief is that his love interest, Jane, should not reject him. But John is feeling very sad and rejected because Jane turned him down for a dinner date and he thinks that he cannot stand this rejection and that it is just awful! Where is the proof that his belief that Jane should not reject him is true? There isn’t any. In fact, she did reject him, therefore, the irrational belief that she should not reject him is clearly false. If John did not hold his irrational belief about Janet in the first place, he would not feel overly sad or rejected. --- 2- The Functional Dispute. Ask ‘is my irrational belief helping me or does it make things worse for me?’ In other words, does the belief work to help achieve basic goals? Is this belief helping happiness or hurting it? It was clear that John’s irrational belief made him feel worse when his belief was confronted with the facts. --- 3- The Logical Dispute. Ask ‘is this belief logical? Does it ring true to common sense?’ With this question, one is looking for ways in which the belief does not stem from preferences for love and approval, comfort and success or achievement. There may be overgeneralizing going on. Does it make sense that Janet should not reject John because he believes that she should not? Humans’ three basic goals of love and approval, comfort and success or achievement are desires. They are preferences or wants. When engaging in demanding thinking or absolutist thinking those preferences become absolutes (Ellis and Dryden, 1987). Preferences are not laws of nature. While it is true that humans have these basic desires or preferences for their lives that does not mean that those preferences are necessarily achieved. Remember in the Declaration of Independence Thomas Jefferson states that we have the rights of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. We do not have the inherent right to happiness but only a right to pursue it. The reason why he does not say we have the right to happiness is that happiness is not a law of nature. That we like happiness appears to be law and that we pursue happiness appears to be law of our nature. That we like love and approval, comfort and success is a fact. But because we like something or want something or prefer something does not make it a law that we must have it. We definitely suffer if we don’t have happiness or get our goals met; that is true. It is not a law that we must have it. If it were a law of nature we would simply be happy - our desires for love, comfort and success would just exist for everybody as a fact. And there would be no reason for Jefferson to state that we have the right to pursue happiness. He would have just said we have the right to happiness. Any irrational belief stems from a core ‘should’, ‘must’, ‘have to’, ‘need to’ statement. The illogical inferences of low frustration tolerance, awfulizing [catastrophizing], and self or other downing (global rating) all flow from the demands for comfort, love and approval, and success or achievement. In a logical dispute the first question to ask is, ‘Do my conclusions stem from my preferences or do they stem from some demand that I have made?’ Let’s take a look at how making a demand can lead to false conclusions. The statement ‘all dogs must have white hair’ followed by the presence of what appears to be a dog with black hair leads us to incorrectly conclude that this dog-like creature with black hair is not a dog. When we say ‘I must have love and approval’ and we don’t get it from someone we find important, we then tend to conclude that it is awful, that it is intolerable, and that maybe we are unworthy. We can also argue against these conclusions as being illogical. If it were a fact that not getting the love we want was truly awful or intolerable we would just drop dead. We would not be able to survive. And if we conclude that we are unworthy or unlovable because we do not get someone’s love we also make a false statement. It is impossible for one’s basic worth to be based on getting the love or approval of one particular person. It is our judgment of ourselves that makes us feel bad or good. When we judge our self-worth on external events we conclude that our value as a person is dependent on getting someone’s love or approval and it clearly is not." - Dr. Ann Jorn
Dr. Jorn is an expert in Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) and was trained by Albert Ellis. She has specialized in treatment of chronic pain conditions since 1993. She is a lecturer and writer in pain management and REBT. She is founder of the Berkshire Institute of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy. [Refer http://psychcentral.com/lib/rational-emotive-behavior-therapy/0001563 ]
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"Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy: Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), previously called rational therapy and rational emotive therapy, is a comprehensive, active-directive, philosophically and empirically based psychotherapy which focuses on resolving emotional and behavioral problems and disturbances and enabling people to lead happier and more fulfilling lives. REBT was created and developed by the American psychotherapist and psychologist Albert Ellis who was inspired by many of the teachings of Asian, Greek, Roman and modern philosophers. REBT is one form of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) and was first expounded by Ellis in the mid-1950s; development continued until his death in 2007. =====History: Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT) is both a psychotherapeutic system of theory and practices and a school of thought established by Albert Ellis. Originally called ‘rational therapy’, its appellation was revised to ‘rational emotive therapy’ in 1959, then to its current appellation in 1992. REBT was one of the first of the cognitive behavior therapies, as it was predicated in articles Ellis first published in 1956, nearly a decade before Aaron Beck first set forth his cognitive therapy. Precursors of certain fundamental aspects of REBT have been identified in various ancient philosophical traditions, particularly Stoicism. For example, Ellis' first major publication on rational therapy describes the philosophical basis of REBT as the principle that a person is rarely affected emotionally by outside things but rather by ‘his perceptions, attitudes, or internalized sentences about outside things and events.' He adds, ‘This principle, which I have inducted from many psychotherapeutic sessions with scores of patients during the last several years, was originally discovered and stated by the ancient Stoic philosophers, especially Zeno of Citium (the founder of the school), Chrysippus [his most influential disciple], Panaetius of Rhodes (who introduced Stoicism into Rome), Cicero, Seneca, Epictetus, and Marcus Aurelius. The truths of Stoicism were perhaps best set forth by Epictetus, who in the first century A.D. wrote in the Enchiridion: ‘Men are disturbed not by things, but by the views which they take of them.’ Shakespeare, many centuries later, rephrased this thought in Hamlet: ‘There’s nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so.’ =====Theoretical assumptions: One of the fundamental premises of REBT is that humans, in most cases, do not merely get upset by unfortunate adversities, but also by how they construct their views of reality through their language, evaluative beliefs, meanings and philosophies about the world, themselves and others. This concept has been attributed as far back as the Greek Philosopher Epictetus, who is often cited as utilizing similar ideas in antiquity. In REBT, clients usually learn and begin to apply this premise by learning the A-B-C-model of psychological disturbance and change. The A-B-C model states that it normally is not merely an A, adversity (or activating event) that contributes to disturbed and dysfunctional emotional and behavioral Cs, consequences, but also what people B, believe about the A, adversity. A, adversity can be either an external situation or a thought or other kind of internal event, and it can refer to an event in the past, present, or future. The Bs, beliefs that are most important in the A-B-C model are explicit and implicit philosophical meanings and assumptions about events, personal desires, and preferences. The Bs, beliefs that are most significant are highly evaluative and consist of interrelated and integrated cognitive, emotional and behavioral aspects and dimensions. According to REBT, if a person's evaluative B, belief about the A, activating event is rigid, absolutistic and dysfunctional, the C, the emotional and behavioral consequence, is likely to be self-defeating and destructive. Alternatively, if a person's evaluative B, belief is preferential, flexible and constructive, the C, the emotional and behavioral consequence is likely to be self-helping and constructive. Through REBT, by understanding the role of their mediating, evaluative and philosophically based illogical, unrealistic and self-defeating meanings, interpretations and assumptions in upset, people often can learn to identify them, begin to D, dispute, refute, challenge and question them, distinguish them from healthy constructs, and subscribe to more constructive and self-helping constructs. The REBT framework assumes that humans have both innate rational (meaning self-helping, socially helping, and constructive) and irrational (meaning self-defeating, socially defeating, and unhelpful) tendencies and leanings. REBT claims that people to a large degree consciously and unconsciously construct emotional difficulties such as self-blame, self-pity, clinical anger, hurt, guilt, shame, depression and anxiety, and behaviors and behavior tendencies like procrastination, over-compulsiveness, avoidance, addiction and withdrawal by the means of their irrational and self-defeating thinking, emoting and behaving. REBT is then applied as an educational process in which the therapist often active-directively teaches the client how to identify irrational and self-defeating beliefs and philosophies which in nature are rigid, extreme, unrealistic, illogical and absolutist, and then to [develop skepticism and] forcefully and actively question and dispute them and replace them with more rational and self-helping ones. By using different cognitive, emotive and behavioral methods and activities, the client, together with help from the therapist and in homework exercises, can gain a more rational, self-helping and constructive rational way of thinking, emoting and behaving. One of the main objectives in REBT is to show the client that whenever unpleasant and unfortunate activating events occur in people's lives, they have a choice of making themselves feel healthily and self-helpingly sorry, disappointed, frustrated, and annoyed, or making themselves feel unhealthily and self-defeatingly horrified, terrified, panicked, depressed, self-hating, and self-pitying. By attaining and ingraining a more rational and self-constructive philosophy of themselves, others and the world, people often are more likely to behave and emote in more life-serving [productive, healthy, happy] and adaptive ways. Albert Ellis[16] posits three major insights of REBT: Insight 1 – People seeing and accepting the reality that their emotional disturbances at point C are only partially caused by the activating events or adversities at point A that precede C. Although A contributes to C, and although disturbed Cs (such as feelings of panic and depression) are much more likely to follow strong negative As (such as being assaulted or raped), than they are to follow weak As (such as being disliked by a stranger), the main or more direct cores of extreme and dysfunctional emotional disturbances (Cs) are people’s irrational beliefs — the ‘absolutistic’ (inflexible) ‘musts’ and their accompanying inferences and attributions that people strongly believe about the activating event. Insight 2 – No matter how, when, and why people acquire self-defeating or irrational beliefs (i.e. beliefs that are the main cause of their dysfunctional emotional-behavioral consequences), if they are disturbed in the present, they tend to keep holding these irrational beliefs and continue upsetting themselves with these thoughts. They do so not because they held them in the past, but because they still actively hold them in the present (often unconsciously), while continuing to reaffirm their beliefs and act as if they are still valid. In their minds and hearts, the troubled people still follow the core ‘musturbatory’ philosophies they adopted or invented long ago, or ones they recently accepted or constructed. Insight 3 – No matter how well they have gained insights 1 and 2, insight alone rarely enables people to undo their emotional disturbances. They may feel better when they know, or think they know, how they became disturbed, because insights can feel useful and curative. But it is unlikely that people will actually get better and stay better unless they have and apply insight 3, which is that there is usually no way to get better and stay better except by continual work and practice in [skepticism] looking for and finding one’s core irrational beliefs; actively, energetically, and scientifically disputing them; replacing one’s absolute ‘musts’ (rigid requirements about how things should be) with more flexible preferences; changing one's unhealthy feelings to healthy, self-helping emotions; and firmly acting against one’s dysfunctional fears and compulsions. Only by a combined cognitive, emotive, and behavioral, as well as a quite persistent and forceful attack on one's serious emotional problems, is one likely to significantly ameliorate or remove them, and keep them removed. Regarding cognitive-affective-behavioral processes in mental functioning and dysfunctioning, originator Albert Ellis explains: ‘REBT assumes that human thinking, emotion, and action are not really separate or disparate processes, but that they all significantly overlap and are rarely experienced in a pure state. Much of what we call emotion is nothing more nor less than a certain kind - a biased, prejudiced, or strongly evaluative kind - of thought. But emotions and behaviors significantly influence and affect thinking, just as thinking influences emotions and behaviors. Evaluating is a fundamental characteristic of human organisms and seems to work in a kind of closed circuit with a feedback mechanism: First, perception biases response, and then response tends to bias subsequent perception. Also, prior perceptions appear to bias subsequent perceptions, and prior responses appear to bias subsequent responses. What we call feelings almost always have a pronounced evaluating or appraisal element.’ REBT then generally proposes that many of these self-defeating cognitive, emotive and behavioral tendencies are both innately biological and indoctrinated early in and during life, and further grow stronger as a person continually revisits, clings and acts on them. Ellis alludes to similarities between REBT and the general semantics when explaining the role of irrational beliefs in self-defeating tendencies, citing Alfred Korzybski as a significant modern influence on this thinking. REBT differs from other clinical approaches like psychoanalysis in that it places little emphasis on exploring the past, but instead focuses on changing the current evaluations and philosophical thinking-emoting and behaving in relation to themselves, others and the conditions under which people live. =====Psychological dysfunction: One of the main pillars of REBT is that irrational and dysfunctional ways and patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving are contributing to much, though hardly all, human disturbance and emotional and behavioral self-defeatism and social defeatism. REBT generally teaches that when people turn flexible preferences, desires and wishes into grandiose, absolutistic and fatalistic dictates, this tends to contribute to disturbance and upsetness. Albert Ellis has suggested three core beliefs or philosophies that humans tend to disturb themselves through: -----1- ‘I absolutely MUST, under practically all conditions and at all times, perform well (or outstandingly well) and win the approval (or complete love) of significant others. If I fail in these important—and sacred—respects, that is awful and I am a bad, incompetent, unworthy person, who will probably always fail and deserves to suffer.’ Holding this belief when faced with adversity tends to contribute to feelings of anxiety, panic, depression, despair, and worthlessness. -----2- ‘Other people with whom I relate or associate, absolutely MUST, under practically all conditions and at all times, treat me nicely, considerately and fairly. Otherwise, it is terrible and they are rotten, bad, unworthy people who will always treat me badly and do not deserve a good life and should be severely punished for acting so abominably to me.’ Holding this belief when faced with adversity tends to contribute to feelings of anger, rage, fury, and vindictiveness. -----3- ‘The conditions under which I live absolutely MUST, at practically all times, be favorable, safe, hassle-free, and quickly and easily enjoyable, and if they are not that way it's awful and horrible and I can't bear it. I can't ever enjoy myself at all. My life is impossible and hardly worth living.’ Holding this belief when faced with adversity tends to contribute to frustration and discomfort, intolerance, self-pity, anger, depression, and to behaviors such as procrastination, avoidance, and inaction. REBT commonly posits that at the core of irrational beliefs there often are explicit or implicit rigid demands and commands, and that extreme derivatives like awfulizing, frustration intolerance, people deprecation and over-generalizations are accompanied by these. According to REBT the core dysfunctional philosophies in a person's evaluative emotional and behavioral belief system, are also very likely to contribute to unrealistic, arbitrary and crooked inferences and distortions in thinking. REBT therefore first teaches that when people in an insensible and devout way overuse absolutistic, dogmatic and rigid ‘shoulds’, ‘musts’, and ‘oughts’, they tend to disturb and upset themselves. Further REBT generally posits that disturbed evaluations to a large degree occur through over-generalization, wherein people exaggerate and globalize events or traits, usually unwanted events or traits or behavior, out of context, while almost always ignoring the positive events or traits or behaviors. For example, awfulizing is partly mental magnification of the importance of an unwanted situation to a catastrophe or horror, elevating the rating of something from bad to worse than it should be, to beyond totally bad, worse than bad to the intolerable and to a ‘holocaust‘. The same exaggeration and overgeneralizing occurs with human rating, wherein humans come to be arbitrarily and axiomatically defined by their perceived flaws or misdeeds. Frustration intolerance then occurs when a person perceives something to be too difficult, painful or tedious, and by doing so exaggerates these qualities beyond one's ability to cope with them. Essential to REBT theory is also the concept of secondary disturbances which people sometimes construct on top of their primary disturbance. As Ellis emphasizes: ‘Because of their self-consciousness and their ability to think about their thinking, they can very easily disturb themselves about their disturbances and can also disturb themselves about their ineffective attempts to overcome their emotional disturbances.’ =====Mental wellness: As would be expected, REBT argues that mental wellness and mental health to a large degree results from an adequate amount of self-helping, flexible, logico-empirical ways of thinking, emoting and behaving. When a perceived undesired and stressful activating event occurs, and the individual is interpreting, evaluating and reacting to the situation rationally and self-helpingly, then the resulting consequence is, according to REBT, likely to be more healthy, constructive and functional. This does not by any means mean that a relatively un-disturbed person never experiences negative feelings, but REBT does hope to keep debilitating and un-healthy emotions and subsequent self-defeating behavior to a minimum. To do this REBT generally promotes a flexible, un-dogmatic, self-helping and efficient belief system and constructive life philosophy about adversities and human desires and preferences. REBT clearly acknowledges that people, in addition to disturbing themselves, also are innately constructivists. Because they largely upset themselves with their beliefs, emotions and behaviors, they can be helped to, in a multimodal manner, dispute and question these and develop a more workable, more self-helping set of constructs. REBT generally teaches and promotes: ----- That the concepts and philosophies of life of unconditional self-acceptance, other-acceptance, and life-acceptance are effective philosophies of life in achieving mental wellness and mental health. ----- That human beings are inherently fallible and imperfect and that they had better accept their and other human being's totality and humanity, while at the same time not like some of their behaviors and characteristics. That they are better off not measuring their entire self or their ‘being’ and give up the narrow, grandiose and ultimately destructive notion to give themselves any global rating or report card. This is partly because all humans are continually evolving and are far too complex to accurately rate; all humans do both self-defeating / socially defeating and self-helping / socially helping deeds, and have both beneficial and un-beneficial attributes and traits at certain times and in certain conditions. REBT holds that ideas and feelings about self-worth are largely definitional and are not empirically confirmable or falsifiable. ----- That people had better accept life with its hassles and difficulties not always in accordance with their wants, while trying to change what they can change and live as elegantly as possible with what they cannot change. =====REBT Intervention: As explained, REBT is a therapeutic system of both theory and practices; generally one of the goals of REBT is to help clients see the ways in which they have learned how they often needlessly upset themselves, teach them how to ‘un-upset’ themselves and then how to empower themselves to lead happier and more fulfilling lives. The emphasis in therapy is generally to establish a successful collaborative therapeutic working alliance based on the REBT educational model. Although REBT teaches that the therapist or counsellor had better demonstrate unconditional other-acceptance or unconditional positive regard, the therapist is not necessarily always encouraged to build a warm and caring relationship with the client. The tasks of the therapist or counselor include understanding the client’s concerns from his point of reference and work as a facilitator, teacher and encourager. In traditional REBT, the client together with the therapist, in a structured active-directive manner, often work through a set of target problems and establish a set of therapeutic goals. In these target problems, situational dysfunctional emotions, behaviors and beliefs are assessed in regards to the client's values and goals. After working through these problems, the client learns to generalize insights to other relevant situations. In many cases after going through a client's different target problems, the therapist is interested in examining possible core beliefs and more deep rooted philosophical evaluations and schemas that might account for a wider array of problematic emotions and behaviors. Although REBT much of the time is used as a brief therapy, in deeper and more complex problems, longer therapy is promoted. In therapy, the first step often is that the client acknowledges the problems, accepts emotional responsibility for these and has willingness and determination to change. This normally requires a considerable amount of insight, but as originator Albert Ellis explains: ‘Humans, unlike just about all the other animals on earth, create fairly sophisticated languages which not only enable them to think about their feeling, their actions, and the results they get from doing and not doing certain things, but they also are able to think about their thinking and even think about thinking about their thinking.’ Through the therapeutic process, REBT employs a wide array of forceful and active, meaning multimodal and disputing, methodologies. Central through these methods and techniques is the intent to help the client challenge, dispute and question their destructive and self-defeating cognitions, emotions and behaviors. The methods and techniques incorporate cognitive-philosophic, emotive-evocative-dramatic, and behavioral methods for disputation of the client's irrational and self-defeating constructs and helps the client come up with more rational and self-constructive ones. REBT seeks to acknowledge that understanding and insight are not enough; in order for clients to significantly change, they had better pinpoint their irrational and self-defeating constructs and work forcefully and actively at changing them to more functional and self-helping ones. REBT posits that the client must work hard to get better, and in therapy this normally includes a wide array of homework exercises in day-to-day life assigned by the therapist. The assignments may for example include desensitization tasks, i.e., by having the client confront the very thing he or she is afraid of. By doing so, the client is actively acting against the belief that often is contributing significantly to the disturbance. Another factor contributing to the brevity of REBT is that the therapist seeks to empower the client to help himself through future adversities. REBT only promotes temporary solutions if more fundamental solutions are not found. An ideal successful collaboration between the REBT therapist and a client results in changes to the client's philosophical way of evaluating himself or herself, others, and his or her life, which will likely yield effective results. The client then moves toward unconditional self-acceptance, other-acceptance and life-acceptance while striving to live a more self-fulfilling and happier life. =====Efficacy: REBT [Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy] and CBT [Cognitive Behavior Therapy] in general have a substantial and strong research base to verify and support both their psychotherapeutic efficiency and their theoretical underpinnings. A great quantity of scientific empirical studies has proven REBT to be an effective and efficient treatment for many kinds of psychopathology, conditions and problems. A vast amount of outcome and experimental studies support the effectiveness of REBT and CBT. Recently, REBT randomized clinical trials have offered a positive view on the efficacy of REBT. In general REBT is arguably one of the most investigated theories in the field of psychotherapy and a large amount of clinical experience and a substantial body of modern psychological research have validated and substantiated many of REBTs theoretical assumptions on personality and psychotherapy. =====Limitations and critique: Some critiques have been given on some of the clinical research that has been done on REBT both from within and by others. For instance originator Albert Ellis has on occasions emphasized the difficulty and complexity of measuring psychotherapeutic effectiveness, since many studies only tend to measure whether clients merely feel better after therapy instead of them getting better and staying better. Ellis has also criticized studies for having limited focus primarily to cognitive restructuring aspects, as opposed to the combination of cognitive, emotive and behavioral aspects of REBT. As REBT has been subject to criticisms during its existence, especially in its early years, REBT theorists have a long history of publishing and addressing those concerns. It has also been argued by Ellis and by other clinicians that REBT theory on numerous occasions has been misunderstood and misconstrued both in research and in general. Some have criticized REBT for being harsh, formulaic and failing to address deep underlying problems. This has been cogently refuted by REBT theorists who have pointed out that a careful study of REBT shows that it is both philosophically deep, humanistic and individualized collaboratively working on the basis of the client’s point of reference. They have further pointed out that REBT utilizes an integrated and interrelated methodology of cognitive, emotive-experiential and behavioral interventions. Others have questioned REBTs view of rationality, both radical constructivists who have claimed that reason and logic are subjective properties and those who believe that reason can be objectively determined. REBT theorists have refuted these claims by maintaining that REBT raises objections to clients' irrational choices and conclusions as a working hypothesis and through collaborative efforts demonstrate the irrationality on practical, functional and social consensual grounds. In 1998 when asked what the main criticism on REBT was, Albert Ellis replied that it was the claim that it was too rational and not dealing sufficiently enough with emotions. He repudiated the claim by saying that REBT on the contrary emphasized that thinking, feeling, and behaving are interrelated and integrated, and that it includes a vast amount of both emotional and behavioral methods in addition to cognitive ones. Ellis has himself in very direct terms criticized opposing approaches such as psychoanalysis, transpersonal psychology and abreactive psychotherapies in addition to on several occasions questioning some of the doctrines in certain religious systems, spiritualism and mysticism. Many, including REBT practitioners, have warned against dogmatizing and sacredizing REBT as a supposedly perfect psychological cure-all and panacea. Prominent REBTers have promoted the importance of high quality and programmatic research, including originator Ellis, a self-proclaimed ‘passionate skeptic’. He has on many occasions been open to challenges and acknowledged errors and inefficiencies in his approach and concurrently revised his theories and practices. In general, with regard to cognitive-behavioral psychotherapies' interventions, others have pointed out that as about 30–40% of people are still unresponsive to interventions, that REBT could be a platform of reinvigorating empirical studies on the effectiveness of the cognitive-behavioral models of psychopathology and human functioning. REBT has generally been developed, revised and augmented through the years, as understanding, knowledge and science about psychology and psychotherapy have progressed. This includes its theoretical concepts, practices and methodology. The teaching of scientific thinking, reasonableness and un-dogmatism has been inherent in REBT as an approach, and these ways of thinking have been part of REBT's empiricism and skepticism. =====Applications and interfaces: Applications and interfaces of REBT are used with a broad range of clinical problems in traditional psychotherapeutic settings such as individual-, group- and family therapy. It is used as a general treatment for a vast number of different conditions and psychological problems normally associated with psychotherapy. In addition, REBT is used with non-clinical problems and problems of living through counselling, consultation and coaching settings dealing with problems including relationships, social skills, career changes, stress management, assertiveness training, grief, problems with aging, money, weight control, etc. REBT also has many interfaces and applications through self-help resources, phone and internet counseling, workshops and seminars, workplace and educational programmes, etc. This includes Rational Emotive Education (REE) where REBT is applied in education settings, Rational Effectiveness Training in business and work-settings and SMART Recovery (Self Management And Recovery Training) in supporting those in addiction recovery, in addition to a wide variety of specialized treatment strategies and applications. " - wikipedia.org
Originally downloaded from the Wikipedia website 24th October, 2014. [Refer http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_emotive_behavior_therapy ]
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